7 Things That Will Help Any Guy Get Over a Break-Up

Sure, breakups are hard, but they don’t have to be all bad.  Break-ups can be an opportunity to redefine what you are looking for in another person and even reinvent yourself.  Here are 7 things you can do to help you get over your break-up and move on to the bigger and better things that await.

Plan a Trip to Sin City

No better way to make your ex jealous than for them to see photos of you and all your other single friends on social media, partying it up in Vegas.  Day drink at one of the hot pool parties and then get dressed up and head to Hakkasan or Tao. Hit up the strip clubs and the tables and let all that time with your friends remind you how much fun it is to fly solo.  No drama at the end of the night, no one to cater to except you. You’ll be feeling like your old single self in no time.

Focus on Your Career

Relationships require a lot of time and attention.  Post-break-up can be the perfect time to put in some extra hours in the office, go that extra mile to wine and dine your important clients or anything else that could help take your career to the next level.  Being relationship-free will eliminate a lot of distractions and putting more time into your business will help you think less about your ex. Success leads to confidence and confidence will help you grow more comfortable with your new-found single status.

Get a Revenge Body

Most people gain weight being in a relationship. All the nights in spent eating Postmates and watching Netflix, and all the date nights on the town consuming decadent food and cocktails can mean a lot of extra calories.  So, use a break-up to your advantage and whip yourself back into shape. Take the Divorce Diet to a whole new level and you’ll feel like a whole new you. Join Cross-Fit or Soul Cycle, sign up for hot yoga or a half marathon. Not only will you be reaping the physical rewards of all the exercise, but the gym is a great place to meet your rebound, and women love a good gun show.

Pick Up a New Hobby

Use the free time you just acquired to start doing the things you used to do or the things you’ve always wanted to try. So often we get lost in our partner’s favorite past-times or feel like we don’t have the time to do the things we love because we are spending so much time with our significant other.  A break-up is an opportunity to rediscover things we used to love doing and to find new ways to have fun. Get SCUBA certified, go on a deep-sea fishing trip, buy season tickets for your favorite team, drink some stellar Scotch and smoke a Cuban cigar. Your free time is all yours again, spend it doing the things that make you happy.

Join a Country Club

Country Cubs are great places to unwind as well as to network.  Host clients on the golf course, join a doubles tennis league and just get back into the habit of doing things on your own.  Country Clubs often host dinners and other events for members. Meeting other members can often lead to great business relationships.  When you need a referral for a doctor or a lawyer, you have a built-in network of people to ask. There’s just no down-side to being a member of an elite club where you can stay active, meet people and simply belong.

Buy Yourself Something

Retail therapy is a real thing.  Buying something new can make you feel better and boost your confidence.  Maybe it’s time to overhaul your work wardrobe and buy those custom suits you’ve been considering.  If you’re feeling like making a big change, invest in that vacation home you keep saying you’re going to buy or splurge on the sports car you’ve been wanting but your ex kept telling you was impractical. Take the opportunity to reinvent yourself without a significant other weighing in on your every move.  

Put Yourself Out There

Eventually, you are going to want to be in a relationship (even George Clooney finally settled down).  If you want to start out slow, make a Tinder profile. Once it’s been a while and you’re looking for more than just a fling, join a more serious dating site like Match.com or better yet, hire a private matchmaker.  Let your friends know you’re on the market again. Just taking these few simple steps will have you put out the “I’m ready for a relationship” vibe in no time and before you know it, you will have met someone else and this break-up will be nothing more than a blip on your relationship radar.

No matter how grim things may seem, there’s always another relationship on the horizon.  Just be patient, take time for yourself and before you know it, you’ll be back to eating Postmates in bed and watching Netflix like you never missed a beat.